About a year after our beautiful Jewish wedding, we found out we were having a baby boy.When he was 16 months old, I discovered that my husband was having an affair.As the years went by and our relationship intensified, my boyfriend accompanied me to many a (Shabbat songs).We attended Judaism classes and a support group for interfaith couples and agreed that if we ever had kids, we would raise them as Jews.How could I marry him, contributing to the assimilation and possible disappearance of my people?
" I had worked so hard to convince my father that this marriage would not bring disgrace upon myself, my family, or my people. Of course, plenty of Jews also withhold their feelings and cheat on their spouses.But I knew that a piece of him was dying inside, and I felt horribly guilty about it.The Reform rabbi we'd asked to marry us counseled my dad several times before our wedding, helping him work through his conflicted feelings.) But when I told my dad, his first and foremost concern was for my wellbeing.
To this day he and my mother have been extremely supportive of me, though occasionally my dad makes an "if only you would have listened to me…" statement, which pierces me to the core.He told me he was in love with the other woman and wanted a divorce. If there were cracks in our relationship, he had not communicated them to me.