The curse is that those factors establish tradition.I've experienced my share of racism and have had racial slurs thrown in my direction. I've overheard conversations about me where people spewed hateful words because they didn't think I knew English."You're going to end up pregnant before you're married," she once said. But my grandfather—my mother's father—wasn't too fond of my dad.My dad knew that in order to ask for my mom's hand in marriage, he had to have a house ready for her. He also knew that the American Dream was the dream he wanted to achieve for them. She's always said that he's 'mi media naranja' (a Spanish saying for soul mate).But it's not only about where and how it started; it may not even be right to think it started from any one place.There's a myriad of factors that are both onset by personal experience and exposure to what people see on television or read in the news.Once, in 2011, my then-boyfriend and I left a photo of us, taken at an event, at a bodega by accident.
I used to say I didn't have a type, but if we go off consistency, I do.
And, really, it roots deeper than my parents, my grandparents, and their parents before them.