We were under the impression that we would be one of many couples of many racial combinations interviewed, and would have never agreed to do an expose on our qualms with Harvard black students alone, although this is what the article presents to readers.
Dami was emailed by Fifteen Minutes asking if we would be interested in being interviewed for an article about interracial relationships at Harvard.
Due to our experiences with loved ones back home, we recognize that racism is a multifaceted, complex thing and that many times, well-intentioned, good people of all races can still say problematic or hurtful things.
We care about many of the people that we spoke about in this article, and that is why we were ambiguous with refusing to provide identities when telling these stories.
This paper discusses how online interracial dating communities function in the 21st century.
About 75 year ago, my then approximately 8-year old grandfather slammed the door shut when he saw a black man in front of him, who was trying to sell nuts to people in the neighbourhood.
We would have talked about instances that have occurred back home, with people who are much, much older than us.
But that is not what our interview focused on: we were asked to talk about our experiences at Harvard, and we tried to open up best we could, and feel as if only bits and pieces of our responses were highlighted with no context provided.
During this time, he could have never imagined that only two generations later, one of his closest family members would get into a relationship with someone with another skin colour: interracial relationships were not usual then, definitely not in the village where he lived.
The existence of the internet gives us access to various attitudes towards other races, cultures and ‘mixed’ couples.
Through ethnographic research, this paper provides a description of how online interracial dating communities function in the 21st century.
As students, we fear that this misrepresentation will silence our peers in speaking out about their experiences, due to fear of being portrayed in an unfair manner.
As a university committed to diversity and inclusion, we should be running more articles like this, facilitating discussion about what many students do not publicly talk about.When we sat down for the interview, we asked what the story was going to be and were told that although there wasn’t a story yet, it would arise from the comments of couples in the interviews.